Children more willing to punish if the wrongdoer is 'taught a lesson'

Children are more willing to sacrifice their own happiness to punish others for bad behaviour if they know they will be ‘taught a lesson’, study finds

  • Researchers played a video of a child tearing up ‘s art work to 251 children 
  • Kids then quizzed on if they should be punished by locking away their iPad  
  • But the children would have to give up their own iPad in order to punish the other
  • Children were 24% more likely to punish bad behaviour if they knew the bad child would learn why their behaviour was unacceptable 

Children, uninhibited by decades of conditioning, give a good indication of the natural human response to social situations. 

Now, researchers from Harvard University have found youngsters are willing to sacrifice their own happiness to punish others for bad behaviour.

The data also reveals children are 24 per cent more likely to allow punishment if the culprit will learn a moral lesson, rather than just out of revenge. 

Researchers from Harvard University have found youngsters are willing to sacrifice their own happiness to punish others for bad behaviour (stock)

What drives people to punish others who have behaved badly has been debated by philosophers and psychologists for decades.

Previous studies have found both retribution and teaching others a lesson are important factors but few have looked at children.

The response of society’s youngest is purer, less influenced by learned behaviours and less tainted by personal experiences.  

Study lead author Dr Julia Marshall, who was a PhD student at Yale University when the study was conducted, said: ‘Children are less exposed to social ideas about how to behave in certain ways.

‘We wanted to know if children are interested in punishing others because they want wrongdoers to pay, because they want to teach bad actors a lesson, or a combination of both.’ 

Researchers played a video of a child tearing up another youngster’s art work to 251 children aged four to seven.

Children were asked to decide whether to punish the ‘art destroyer’ by taking away their iPad.

Children are known to be far less likely to suffer from the coronavirus, with a new study finding just four per cent of children admitted to hospital had the virus.  

Why children are less affected by the coronavirus than adults remains unknown, but it is believed to be down to how their immune system reacts following infection. 

The research looked at the test results of more than 135,000 children admitted to seven US hospitals up until September 8.

It revealed only 5,374 (4.0 per cent) of patients tested positive and, of this tiny percentage, 359 (6.7 per cent) were hospitalised with 99 needing intensive care. 

Eight of the infected patients (0.15 per cent) later died. Six of the deaths were of patients with ‘complex preexisting comorbidities’, the scientists say.  

The catch being, they would have to make a personal sacrifice if they decided to punish them, as their own iPad would be locked up too. 

They were then divided into two groups, the first group was told if they chose to punish the naughty child in an act of revenge, the art destroyer’s iPad would be taken away, but they would not be told what for or why.

A quarter of children (26 per cent) in this first group decided to punish their naughty contemporaries, despite having to pay the price – losing their own iPad. 

However, children were 24 per cent more likely to punish the badly behaved child if they knew they would learn a moral lesson about why their behaviour is unacceptable.   

Senior author Assistant Professor Dr Molly Crockett said: ‘Retribution is a driving force in young children’s moral judgement.

‘The opportunity to teach a wrongdoer a lesson motivates children to punish over and above the desire to see them suffer for their actions.’

The findings suggest even though children want to see bad behaviour punished, they also want wrongdoers to learn from their mistakes.

Dr Marshall said: ‘Children seem equipped at an early age with both a desire for punishers to receive their just deserts, and a desire to have them improve their behaviour for next time.’ 

The findings were published in the journal Nature Human Behaviour.

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Children should be taught 'the good and bad about history'

Children should be taught ‘the good and bad about history’, says Gavin Williamson as he insists we should be ‘very proud’ of Britain’s past – after calls to ‘decolonise’ the curriculum

  • Gavin Williamson said it is ‘really important’ that history classes reflect diversity
  • He said: ‘We have got to ensure that we teach the good and bad about history’
  • It was revealed today that a quarter of British students ‘self-censor’ their views 

Children should be taught ‘the good and bad about history’, the Education Secretary said today, as he insisted we should be ‘very proud’ of Britain’s past. 

Gavin Williamson has indicated he would be ‘incredibly interested’ in making sure the country’s history curriculum is ‘reflective’ of Britain’s diverse population.

He told the Sunday Telegraph: ‘It is really important that the history taught in schools looks at the rich diversity and tapestry that has made our nation so great, and the important role that people from all backgrounds have played in our history.’ 

The Education Secretary said we should be ‘very proud of our history,’ adding: ‘I would always want schools to be celebrating our great nation’s history and the important role that we have played in the world and shaping the world for the better.’

Mr Williamson explained this means ‘making sure we are always very reflective of diversity and of all those people who have made an important role in making the history of our nation.’  

Gavin Williamson (pictured) has indicated he would be ‘incredibly interested’ in making sure the country’s history curriculum is ‘reflective’ of Britain’s diverse population

It comes after private schools revealed plans to alter history lessons in an attempt to ‘decolonise’ their curriculums in the wake of the Black Lives Matter protests earlier this year.

Top independent schools such as Winchester, Fettes, Ampleforth and St Paul’s Girls are said to be ‘formulating new approaches’ to teaching about Britain’s colonial past.

‘We have initiated a review into the school’s culture and practices, and it is our intention that this review will conclude next term,’ Winchester College said in June.

‘A major focus will be our curriculum and our desire to teach beyond the traditional syllabus by applying a global perspective and a broader range of source material,’ it added. 

Tony Blair’s former school of Fettes College in Edinburgh said it would use the moment as ‘a catalyst for real change, and we are working with staff to produce an action plan’. 

Asked about the row at the time, Mr Williamson said children should learn about ‘the good and the bad’ of the country’s past. 

He added: ‘It is absolutely vitally important, incredibly important, that when children are learning about our nation’s history, they learn all aspects of it.’ 

The decision to review curricula came after Oriel College, Oxford, decided to take down its statue to benefactor Cecil Rhodes following a long-running campaign accusing him of white supremacy. 

Private schools revealed plans to alter history lessons in an attempt to ‘decolonise’ their curriculums in the wake of the Black Lives Matter protests earlier this year.  Pictured: Protests in London

Tony Blair’s former school of Fettes College in Edinburgh, pictured above, said it would use the moment as ‘a catalyst for real change, and we are working with staff to produce an action plan’

The developments follow other schools with links to historical figures implicated in the slave trade exploring name changes.

Beckford School in north London, named after former Lord Mayor of London William Beckford, and Branfil Primary School, in east London, which named after a slave-trading squire, were among those seeking to ditch the references.

Meanwhile, it was revealed today that more than a quarter of students ‘self-censor’ because they fear their views will clash with the ‘woke’ values promoted by their university.

In the latest evidence of the free speech crisis engulfing campuses across the country, 27 per cent of students said they have actively ‘hidden’ their opinions when they are at odds with those of their peers and tutors.

More than half of those who ‘self-censored’ did so because of their political views. A further 40 per cent withheld their opinions on ethical or religious matters for fear of being judged.

In a chilling indication that those with ‘unfashionable’ views fear speaking out will have long-term consequences, almost 40 per cent of those polled said they believed their career would be adversely affected if they expressed their true opinions at university.

Free speech campaigners last night likened some campuses to ‘Maoist re-education camps’ dominated by ‘woke orthodoxy’ where only the most liberal and Left-wing views are tolerated.

Matthew Goodwin, Professor of Politics at the University of Kent, said: ‘We need to keep our world-leading universities as free as possible and we need students and the people teaching them to feel that they can debate, discuss and exchange ideas and perspectives from different angles.

It was revealed today that more than a quarter of students ‘self-censor’ because they fear their views will clash with the ‘woke’ values promoted by their university

More than half of those who ‘self-censored’ did so because of their political views. A further 40 per cent withheld their opinions on ethical or religious matters for fear of being judged

‘If we lose that, we’re going to lose what it is that makes our universities great in the first place. Freedom of speech is a fundamental aspect of our national identity.’

The survey – conducted by Survation on behalf of ADF International, a faith-based legal advocacy organisation – found that more than a third (36 per cent) of students hold views that are legal to express but that would be considered ‘unacceptable’ by their student union.

Ryan Christopher, Director of ADF International UK, said: ‘Of all places, university is where students should be free to debate and explore ideas – especially those with which they disagree.

‘Institutional policies and practices can suggest that even mainstream views are beyond the pale.

‘Today’s censorship on campus can easily become cancel culture in the public square.’

The poll, which received responses from 1,028 current university students and recent graduates across the country, discovered that 44 per cent believed lecturers would treat them differently if they publicly expressed views important to them.

Two-fifths of those questioned said so-called ‘no platforming’ – where events are cancelled due to the views held by speakers – had become more frequent at their university. 

British Library adds Poet Laureate Ted Hughes to a dossier linking him to slavery and colonialism

The celebrated poet Ted Hughes has been added to a dossier linking him to slavery and colonialism by the British Library.

The former Poet Laureate, who came from humble origins in Yorkshire, was found to be a descendant of Nicholas Ferrar who was involved in the slave trade some 300 years before Hughes was born.

Ferrar, born in 1592, and his family, were ‘deeply involved’ with the London Virginia Company, which sought to establish colonies in North America.

The celebrated poet Ted Hughes has been added to a dossier linking him to slavery and colonialism by the British Library

The research is being conducted to find evidence of ‘connections to slavery, profits from slavery or from colonialism’

The research is being conducted to find evidence of ‘connections to slavery, profits from slavery or from colonialism’, The Telegraph reported. 

Hughes was born in 1930 in the village of Mytholmroyd in West Yorkshire where his father worked as a joiner before running a newsagent’s and a tobacconist’s.

He attended Cambridge University on a scholarship where he met his future wife Sylvia Plath.

Along with Hughes, who died in 1998, the British Library has identified Lord Byron, Oscar Wilde and George Orwell as benefits of slavery through distant relatives.

Lord Byron, who died in 1824, has been identified as a beneficiary of slavery because of his great-grandfather’s and uncle’s involvement in the trade

Oscar Wilde was included because of his uncle’s interest in the slave trade, even though the research noted there was no evidence the acclaimed Irish writer inherited any of the money

It is part of the institution’s plans to become ‘actively anti-racist’ by providing context to the remembrance of historical figures.

It comes in the wake of this year’s Black Lives Matter movement which led to a reassessment of a number of people and institutions from our past.

But the tenuous link between Hughes and Ferrar, who he is related to through his mother’s side, has prompted ire among experts of the great writer.

His biographer Sir Jonathan Bate said: ‘It’s ridiculous to tar Hughes with a slave trade connection. And it’s not a helpful way to think about writers.

‘Why on earth would you judge the quality of an artist’s work on the basis of distant ancestors?’

He added that Ferrar was better known as a priest and a scholar who founded the religious community Little Gidding.

George Orwell, who was born Eric Blair in India, had a great-grandfather who was a wealthy slave owner in Jamaica

Mural of Winston Churchill attracts complaints from ‘woke brigade’ 

A mural of Winston Churchill wearing stockings and suspenders and giving the V sign (pictured) has attracted complaints from locals who claim the hand gesture is ‘offensive’

A mural of Winston Churchill wearing stockings and suspenders and giving the ‘V’ sign has attracted complaints from locals who claim the hand gesture is ‘offensive’.

The mural of the wartime leader wearing lingerie was painted on a side wall of the Sandpiper guest house in Brighton by an illusive local artist who goes by the name Horace. 

Guest house owner Mr Phillips – who only provided his last name – received a call from Brighton and Hove City Council who told him they had received complaints about the mural. 

Mr Phillips – who was given three days to alter the image – called Horace as he feared local authorities would ‘ruin the painting’.

But the council made a u-turn at the eleventh hour, claiming the ‘decision had been overturned’, and the mural would not need to be changed because the gesture was ‘historically authentic’. 

Churchill gave the iconic ‘V for victory’ salute during World War Two. 

Churchill giving the iconic ‘V for victory’ salute on November 10, 1942, during World War Two

Romantic poet Lord Byron was added to this list because his great-grandfather was a merchant who owned an estate in Grenada.

His uncle through marriage also owned a plantation in St Kitts.

Oscar Wilde was included because of his uncle’s interest in the slave trade, even though the research noted there was no evidence the acclaimed Irish writer inherited any of the money through the practice.

Meanwhile George Orwell, who was born Eric Blair in India, had a great-grandfather who was a wealthy slave owner in Jamaica.

But the Orwell Society said the money had long since disappeared before Orwell was even born. 

It was recently reported how the British Library was also ‘reviewing’ its Sir Hans Sloane manuscripts after activists targeted one of scores of London landmarks – including the famous Sloane Square – which are named after the pioneering doctor.

The move was revealed in a note on its website, and coincides with a wider review of Sloane’s legacy that saw the British Museum – which he founded – remove his bust from a pedestal and attach the label ‘slave owner’.

The 18th-century philanthropist partly funded his collection of 71,000 artefacts with money from his wife’s sugar plantation in Jamaica, which used slave labour. 

A statue of his likeness on Duke of York Square, off the Kings Road, has attracted the ire of protesters.

But the multi-million pound Cadogan Estate which manages the site on behalf of his descendant, the billionaire Earl Cadogan, resisted calls for the statue to be removed.

They pointed to his astonishing legacy, which included pioneering the smallpox vaccine and the use of quinine to treat malaria. He is also credited with inventing hot chocolate.

The questioning of his legacy could also see campaigns to rename the scores of streets that memorialise him – many of which are located on the Cadogan Estate.

As well as the British Museum, Sloane also founded the Natural History Museum and the Chelsea Physic Garden, and was a founding governor of the Foundling Hospital. All these sites include references to Sloane that could now come under threat.

Another target could be the famous Sloane Square and its well-heeled denizens… nicknamed Sloane Rangers, of which Princess Diana was considered to be an archetype.

Sloane’s descendant, Earl Cadogan, has a seat in the House of Lords and still owns swathes of some of the most exclusive real estate in London as part of his inheritance.

Much of this land is named after the eminent physician and collector, including Sloane Street, Sloane Avenue, Sloane Terrace, and a network of three streets bearing his first name, Hans.

There is also a statue of Sloane on Duke of York Square, an exclusive shopping, dining and residential complex off the Kings Road that sits at the heart of the 300-year-old Cadogan Estate.

The British Library now holds the Sloane manuscripts, which include works by the Elizabethan astronomer John Dee, medieval illuminated manuscripts and Henry VIII’s collection of medical recipes. 

The British Library said on its website: ‘Some items now at the British Library, previously owned by particular named figures cited on these pages, are associated with wealth obtained from enslaved people or through colonial violence. 

‘Curators in the Printed Heritage Collections team have undertaken some research to identify these, as part of ongoing work to interpret and document the provenance and history of the printed collections under our care.’ 

The British Library was contacted for comment.

Tory MPs urge Boris to go to war on BBC and National Trust wokery: PM told to speak out for Britain’s patriotic silent majority against ‘elitist bourgeois liberals’ at institutions

By Glen Owen and Brendan Carlin for the Mail on Sunday

Tory MPs are to demand that Boris Johnson launch a fightback against the politically correct ‘woke’ agenda of institutions including the BBC and the National Trust, The Mail on Sunday can reveal.

The Prime Minister will be urged to speak out for Britain’s ‘patriotic’ silent majority and take a stand against bids by ‘elitist bourgeois liberals’ to rewrite or denigrate the nation’s history.

More than 25 Tory MPs will write to Mr Johnson this week, warning him that ‘Britain’s heritage is under attack – ironically from those missioned to guard it’.

The appeal, led by senior backbencher and ex-Minister Sir John Hayes, will call for drastic action including decriminalising the BBC licence fee and potentially stripping the National Trust of its charitable status. In a stern warning last night, Sir John said: ‘Those responsible for our heritage must stand with us or stand aside.’

The group of Tory MPs and peers also take issue with the BBC’s move to ‘censor’ The Pogues’ song Fairytale Of New York over its use of the word ‘faggot’

Oxford college drops benefactor’s name from its famous library

Oxford’s most elite college has dropped the name of a slave-owning benefactor from its famous library – but decided to keep his statue standing.

All Souls said that it will cease to refer to the ‘Codrington Library’, named after Christopher Codrington, who endowed the college with £10,000 to build a collection when he died in 1710.

He is just one of many historical benefactors British philanthropists who have had their legacies – and involvement in slavery – reassessed in the wake of the Black Lives Matter movement and renewed interest in colonialism.

In Bristol the statue of Edward Colston, a slave-trader who endowed schools in the city. was pulled down by a mob in June, while at least once school named after him changed its name.

In Oxford, the highest-profile campaign has been against Cecil Rhodes.The future of his statue at Oriel College is currently being decided by an ‘independent commission’.

But All Souls, which takes no undergraduates and is famous for taking a handful of new students each year who pass ‘the hardest exam in the world’, said it would not be removing its controversial statue.

The college said that while it would cease to use the name ‘Codrington Library’, ‘further forms of memorialisation and contextualisation’ would be added to explain the sculpture.

These additions will ‘draw attention to the presence of enslaved people on the Codrington plantations, and will express the College’s abhorrence of slavery’, the college said.

While many have hailed the recent campaigns to reassess British colonialism and its consequences, others have expressed caution at ‘rewriting’ the past.

PM Boris Johnson himself has said people should not ‘edit our national CV to make it look more politically correct’.


Their letter, seen by this newspaper, calls for a panel of ‘patriots’ to vet major public appointments, and shows their anger over the National Trust’s decision to ‘commission a review of its properties’ links with colonialism’ – including Churchill’s home, Chartwell.

And it rebukes ‘unheroic characters at the National Maritime Museum’ for ‘re-evaluating Nelson’s heroic status’.

The appeal for the ‘patriotic’ fightback is being organised by the Common Sense group of 60 Tory MPs and peers. Sir John, its chairman, said: ‘It’s time to defend British traditions and values… to stand against the senseless woke whingers and the soulless militants who despise the best of Britain.’

They also take issue with the BBC’s move to ‘censor’ The Pogues’ song Fairytale Of New York over its use of the word ‘faggot’. 

They write: ‘In light of the BBC’s repeated refusal to address its organisation’s undoubted liberal bias, illustrated most recently by its bizarre decision to censor a well-known Christmas song, (perhaps, similarly, the whole canon of popular music is to be reviewed by a highly paid zealot!), we believe it is now time to decriminalise the licence fee, so enabling ordinary Britons to choose whether or not to pay for the BBC’s content.’ 

Members of the group – which includes many so-called Red Wall Tories who won seats from Labour last year – are understood to have had a ‘positive’ response from Mr Johnson when they met him this year.

‘We know that the Prime Minister, because of his learning and thoughtfulness about this, recognises that history can neither be sanitised nor rewritten,’ said Sir John. ‘So, we believe he is on the right side of this argument.’

Signatory Tom Hunt said: ‘The vast majority of people in this country are patriotic. They realise that in history there are occasions when we haven’t always got it right.

‘But they realise that by and large this country has been a force for good and are proud of being British. They find it incredibly frustrating and infuriating when very high-profile public organisations – in some cases charitable ones supported by the taxpayer – are promoting divisive political agendas.’

The letter comes amid growing concern within the party over the influence of the Prime Minister’s fiancee, Carrie Symonds, identified by many Tories as the guiding force behind Mr Johnson’s new focus on the ‘green’ agenda.

The Common Sense Tories make a direct threat to the funding of the National Trust, telling Mr Johnson: ‘As long as the purpose of these charitable organisations is perverted by political posturing, we request that you ask the Secretary of State for Culture, Media and Sport to review all outstanding funding applications from [bodies] that pursue political causes.’

They want the Charity Commission to consider ‘the withdrawal of charitable status of guilty parties, notably the National Trust’.

The group’s letter rebukes ‘unheroic characters at the National Maritime Museum’ for ‘re-evaluating Nelson’s heroic status’ (pictured: the Lord Nelson statue at top of Nelson’s column)

On public appointments, they say: ‘It is vital that those appointed reflect public perceptions of what’s just and right, rather than parroting the preoccupations of the liberal Left. To which end, perhaps all appointments should be overseen by a “people’s panel” of patriots.’

The BBC said Fairytale Of New York would be played with its full lyrics on some stations, but not Radio 1, whose young listeners are particularly sensitive to derogatory terms for gender and sexuality.

The National Trust said that ‘exploring and sharing the history of places we look after’ was ‘completely within our charitable objectives’.

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After having three children together my partner still has not proposed

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER six years together and three children my partner has yet to propose to me. I am getting impatient waiting.

I love my partner, he’s the best dad and our relationship is great. He is 32 and I’m 30.

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Two years ago we bought a beautiful, new house and we spend all our money making it a lovely home and doing stuff with the kids.

But if I mention marriage, he gets on his high horse.

I even proposed and he said no, he wants to ask me.

I asked if he really wants to marry me and he said: “Of course.” I don’t get it.

I feel like going to the register office and just doing it, so we are married and all have the same name.

DEIDRE SAYS: He shows loving commit­ment to you and your family life so the chances are that he has some negative feelings about marriage itself.

That may stem from his upbringing or other experiences.

Ask him to write down all the feelings and memories he associates with the idea of getting married.

That should help you help him see that the two of you can create your own mould.

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Save the Children paedo sentenced to DEATH in Pakistan for raping 30 children after serving time in UK jail

A SICK paedophile who worked for Save the Children in the UK has been sentenced to death in his home country after confessing to raping 30 children, it has been reported.

Sohail Ayaz has been handed three death sentences for his crimes in Pakistan, said officials, and will be executed by hanging.

The twisted pervert received his death sentence in Pakistan after kidnapping three young boys, drugging them with crystal meth and then raping them, reported Pakistan’s Express Tribune.

He is like a malignant knot and deserves no leniency

“[He] is like a malignant knot in the body of civil society and deserves nothing but a harsh surgical treatment,” said Judge Jehangir Ali Gondal, handing down the sentence.

“The act of the accused is inhuman – worse than a beast, because even in the world of beasts there is no concept to ravage the innocence of cubs.

“He deserves no leniency or sympathies in awarding the death sentence.

“He shall be hanged by neck till his death, subject to confirmation of sentence of death by the Lahore High Court.”

Officers also said they found tens of thousands of pornographic videos and images of children on computers belonging to Ayaz, some of babies as young as six months.

He was also found guilty of sodomy and profiting from recording and selling child pornography during the hearing in Pakistan’s Rawalpindi trial court on Wednesday.


Deviant Ayaz has a lengthy history of sexual offending against children that began before he arrived in Britain in January 2008.

He had previously been convicted of molesting and photographing a 14-year-old boy in a country that cannot be revealed for legal reasons.

The qualified bookkeeper and accountant was then given a job as a grants monitoring officer at Save the Children in London in November that year.

He was not subject to a background check because his job did not involve directly working with children.

The Pakistan court noted that even though Ayaz is highly educated, “instead of serving humanity in useful manners, he misused his capabilities in destroying the bright future of minors.

“He committed offences against society,” said the judge in Pakistan.

More than a decade ago, police were alerted to disturbed Ayaz after Italian cops arrested a paedophile who said the Pakistani man had given him the names of 15 Romanian children to be abused.

Italian police informed British counterparts who began their own investigation and surveillance of Ayaz.

He was arrested in February 2009 at the charity's headquarters and eventually sentenced to four years in jail after admitting raping a 14-year-old boy.

Police then found thousands of child porn images at his home in Barking, east London.

Some of the images depicted six-month old babies and others showed 'distressed' youngsters being tied up or blindfolded.

Ayaz admitted two counts of possession involving 397 indecent pictures of children and another 112 video clips, which police said had been gathered through file sharing on the 'dark web' with a network of other paedophiles, reported the MailOnline.

After being sentenced to four years in jail, Ayaz was deported upon release. He was later convicted in Italy, and deported again, ending up back in his native Pakistan.

In November last year, the debauched accountant was then arrested in his home country, accused of drugging and raping a 13-year-old boy in a four-day ordeal.

Police said Ayaz – who was working as a government consultant – had filmed the assault and distributed the video to a paedophile ring, before admitting to kidnapping and raping 30 other children in various cities around the country.

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Number of children in state care hits 100,000 for the first time

Number of children in state care hits 100,000 for the first time amid police fears over violent families and teens getting sucked into crime

  • In 2019, some 98,756 children were in local authority care according to reports
  • In 2006, social workers had taken 74,000 children away from their parents 
  • Social workers received serious criticism following the tragic death of Baby P
  • More than 12,000 children are living in children homes rather than foster care 

The number of children in state care is thought to have passed 100,000 for the first time.

The rise is because of police fears over violent families and teenagers getting sucked into crime, a report said.

It revealed a record 98,756 were living in care across the UK in 2019. And it said this number is likely to have passed the six-figure record during lockdown.

The report, from care industry watchers Laing Buisson, follows a major increase in children taken from families and placed in homes or with foster parents over the past 12 years.

Baby P, pictured, died in 2008 after social workers failed to take the 17-month-old  boy into care and left him with his mother 

More began being removed from parents seen as potentially dangerous following the Baby P scandal in 2008, in which the 17-month-old died after social workers failed him by leaving him with his mother.

The new report points to police pressure for more children to be taken into care, with requests up 16 per cent this year. It added the main reasons why children were removed by social workers included deprivation, poverty and ‘a rise in older children in care proceedings associated with issues of child sexual exploitation, gang violence and radicalisation’. More than 12,000 are now living in children’s homes rather than with foster parents, the report said. This figure is nearly 25 per cent up since 2010 because of the growing need to find places for teenagers, especially in southern England.

Laing Buisson said numbers of children in care are expected to have soared following the end of lockdown in June and the re-opening of schools. The report said: ‘There is a general expectation from councils that referrals are set to bounce back in autumn and winter 2020 as children return to school and the extent to which many families have been – and continued to be – adversely affected by the pandemic come to light.’

In 2006, there were 74,726 children in care and this increased to 98,756 by March 2019

It added this stems from an increased risk to children during the lockdown of ‘exposure to domestic violence and parental substance misuse and reduced contact with support agencies’.

There have been deep concerns for children caught in troubled families amid the pandemic. Many youngsters have lost touch with schools and some social workers have resorted in some cases to interviewing families over Zoom.

Education Secretary Gavin Williamson has appealed for more children in care to be found permanent new homes through adoption.

The Laing Buisson figures say that in 2006 there were 74,726 children in care.

By 2010 the number was up to nearly 82,000 and between March 2018 and March 2019 numbers rose by 3.1 per cent from 95,806 to 98,756. In three parts of the country – the North East, Wales and Scotland – more than one in 100 children under 18 are living in state care.

Children who grow up this way and who do not find new families through adoption are at greater risk of lives characterised by poverty, drugs and crime.

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Just under half (45 percent) bemoan the lack of sex in their marriage, with more than one in five never getting intimate between the sheets. The national average amount of sex between married adults is just under four times per month. Three quarters (77 percent) describe their relationship as “comfortable”, with 15 percent finding it repetitive, while a further 12 percent believe their marriage is the leading cause of stress in their lives.

And one-sixth, of married men and women in the UK, think their relationship is only hanging on because they can’t afford to be single.

The research was commissioned by Real Fix, a new podcast which features real life people telling their own extraordinary stories in their own words.

Real Fix podcast host Hattie Bishop said: “Our results made for some fairly unhappy reading in terms of marriage happiness.

“It seems thousands of people – both men and women – are in relationships that aren’t fulfilling for them.

“While it can seem too daunting to get out of a marriage that isn’t working, often it can lead to much greater happiness further down the line.

“Our new podcast features all sorts of people, in all sorts of relationships – and the things that keep them together or drive them apart.

“I think all of them would agree that marriage can be stressful.”

The study also found just under 14 percent of married men and women would go as far as to say they wish they’d never married their spouse.

Men are twice as likely to regret their choice to get married, and also consider themselves more likely to be in a marriage completely devoid of love.

It also emerged one in four married adults is still with their spouse because they’re afraid of being alone.

Just under half (47 percent) are sticking it out because they have children together, and one in four even worry what others would think of them, were they to divorce.

And a fifth of married adults reckon they should have waited until they were older before walking down the aisle.

As a result of unhappy marriages, one in six have cheated on their spouse – with men more likely to stray.

Fourteen percent of men have cheated multiple times, compared to just five percent of women, according to the figures.

The study also revealed the signs of a happy marriage, with 77 percent citing mutual trust as the most important cornerstone.

Four in 10 picked a satisfying sex life – although more respondents picked honesty, shared interests, and selfless gestures.

Hattie Bishop added: “It’s no big secret that lust and sexual desires decrease the longer a relationship goes on.

“What’s normally left is a deep mutual appreciation and respect, built on trust.

“Sadly, not all relationships have these strong foundations, and the more fleeting elements of a relationship – like excitement and sex – can lead people into long-term relationships based on the wrong things.

“However, it’s never too late to put your own happiness – and long term, possibly your partner’s as well – first.”

The Real Fix podcast features real people, recounting their heartbreaking, inspiring, uplifting or funny experiences in their own words.

The first episode featured a couple who insist their relationship is better than ever – despite a 38 year age gap.

While the second episode features a Big Issue seller who met his future wife when he gave her his last 50p.

* Listen to the Real Fix podcast here or subscribe using the appropriate podcast platform here.

The top 10 reasons Britons’ marriages struggle

1. There is no romance

2. Lack of sex

3. There’s little/no excitement

4. They argue a lot

5. They don’t spend enough time together

6. Too many money worries

7. They have different hobbies/interests

8. They don’t talk enough

9. They are too lazy

10. They are too selfish

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Two children killed in smash with mum died in hospital, inquest hears

Two of the three young children killed in horror smash alongside their ‘mummy blogger’ mother, 29, died in hospital as medics desperately battled to save them, inquest hears

  • Zoe Powell, was killed alongside daughters Amelia, four, and Phoebe, eight, and son Simeon, six, when their Subaru collided with a HGV on the A40 near Oxford 
  • Her husband Joshua, 30, and their 18-month-old daughter Penny survived the crash which took place shortly before 10pm on Monday, October 12
  • Today a coroner said Amelia and Simeon did not die at the scene but in hospital

Two of the three young children killed last month in a horror smash with their mother died in hospital as medics desperately battled to save them, an inquest has heard. 

Zoe Powell, 29, was killed alongside daughters Amelia, four, and Phoebe, eight, and son Simeon, six, when their Subaru people carrier collided with an HGV on the A40 near Oxford.

Her husband Joshua, 30, and their 18-month-old daughter Penny survived the crash which took place shortly before 10pm on Monday, October 12.

Following the accident, Amelia was treated for a severe head injury, but within an hour she was dead, Oxford Coroner’s Court heard today.

Simeon survived until the following morning as medics treated a catastrophic injury to his brain but at 3.19am he too was declared dead, the coroner revealed. 

Zoe Powell, 29, with Phoebe, eight, Simeon, six, Amelia, four, and her husband Joshua, 30. The couple also have an 18-month-old daughter Penny who survived the crash

Zoe Powell, was killed alongside daughters Amelia, four, and Phoebe, eight, and son Simeon, six, when their silver Subaru collided with a HGV on the A40 near Oxford (the scene last month) 

Josh Powell (back) with his family (left to right) daughters Amelia, four, Phoebe, eight, wife Zoe, 29, holding their daughter Penny, 18 months, and son Simeon, six 

Mrs Powell and her eldest child, eight-year-old Phoebe, had been declared dead at the scene of the collision, a bridge over the railway line on the A40 between Cassington and Oxford, about 200 metres west of the A34 flyover.

Coroner Darren Salter opened the inquests in what he described as ‘the tragic case of the Powell family.’

Mr Salter said Zoe Powell was an ‘artist and author’ who had been born in Cheltenham and resided with her husband Josh, a railway engineer, at Glynswood in Chinnor.

All of the three children were described as primary school pupils by the coroner.

‘It is reported that she was involved in a road traffic collision on October 12 and her cause of death following post mortem examination is given as multiple injuries.’

Mrs Powell and her daughter Phoebe Jane Powell, who was born in Sheffield, were both declared dead by Dr Brown from the South Central Ambulance Service and were identified by ‘circumstantial evidence’ the following day, the coroner said.

Following a post mortem examination, the cause of death for Phoebe was also given as ‘multiple injuries,’ Mr Salter added.

Turning to the inquests of Amelia and Simeon, Mr Salter told how their grandparents had identified the bodies of the little children to hospital staff, first identifying Amelia on the evening of October 12 and then identifying Simeon the following day.

Mr Salter said: ‘In respect of all four cases, one inquest for all four tragic deaths will be held on March 23, subject to all necessary investigations.’

Mr Powell had spoken out from his hospital bed as he and the family’s youngest daughter Penny started to recover.

The Powell children who died last month, Simeon, Phoebe and Amelia

In a statement, he said: ‘I had been blessed with four wonderful children, whose thirst for life and hunger of adventure kept me busy but in the best possible way.

‘As I look to an uncertain future, I reflect on the fun that we had as a family, with feelings of sadness that it was cut so short.

‘There are many battles to come and I thank everyone who has stood by me and Penny thus far. We are well supported and know to ask if anything is needed.’

The HGV driver, a 56-year-old man, suffered minor injuries and has co-operated fully with the investigation, Thames Valley Police said.

The tragedy came months after the Powell family ‘lost everything’ when they were forced into temporary accommodation following a fire at their home.

Friends, neighbours and members of the churches where the family were regular visitors described the Powells as ‘delightful’ people.

The Powells

Zoe Powell, 29, with her daughter Phoebe, eight

Zoe Powell with her daughter Amelia Powell, four

Floral tributes outside the Powell home in Chinnor last month 

He and Mrs Powell had run their own company, Skylark and Hare Ltd., a company focused on artistic creation and the construction of railways, featuring an incorporated company, The Mama Book, which was a book for new mothers authored by Mrs Powell.

Mrs Powell, on her The Mama Book website, said: ‘The mama book is a journal and community that was born out of my own need for a space- a physical place to write and focus and reflect on motherhood.’

A crowdfunding page set up by a colleague of Mr Powell’s has raised more than £150,000.

My Family: Widower Josh Powell’s tribute

On October 20, Josh Powell released a tribute to his family:

‘Before the adventure of starting a family nobody truly knows what to expect. All of life’s preconceptions and what we see in the world around us meant that life as a family man was so much better than I expected it to be.

‘I had been blessed with four wonderful children, whose thirst for life and hunger of adventure kept me busy but in the best possible way.

‘As I look to an uncertain future, I reflect on the fun that we had as a family, with feelings of sadness that it was cut so short.

‘Phoebe was my first daughter, and was the model of her mother but with a thirst to always know more. Regularly we would adventure and explore the world together. She was clever and able to make great jumps of imagination – her great creations in Lego are testament to this.

‘Simeon was just like his father, with a mischievous sense of humour and desire to know more of the world. A keen sportsman, he had been due to play in first football match this week.

‘He shared the kind heart of his sisters and wouldn’t be happier than when he knew that everyone was ok.

‘Amelia was kind and spirited. Her tenderness and thoughtfulness much more advanced than her years.

‘Her ability to dance and express herself was a true blessing, with an abundance of self-confidence. Tied down by no element of practicality she had the most vivid dreams imagination.

‘Myself and Zoe were as different as we were alike. Despite the frequent tensions this would bring, it was of immense benefit having such differing world views.

‘Our children benefited from this in having adventures but also the quiet to talk. Zoe was a dreamer; with a head spinning of new things to do or tales to tell. More than anything, we made a great partnership to raise a family.

‘I want to thank everyone who has rushed to put their arms around to us to support me and Penny.

‘As a family that have always preferred understated calm and brevity, it has been a revelation the benefit of the deep wider relationships now I’ve lost my immediate nuclear family.

‘There are many battles to come, and I thank everyone who has stood by me and Penny thus far.

‘We are well supported and know to ask if anything is needed.

‘Now we have the time to readjust and grieve, this is the challenge of the abundance of loss we feel as a family.

‘Thank you to those who have respected our space and supported us thus far, and given us the time and space to do this.’

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Children are pulled out alive after earthquake smashed Turkish city

Children aged three and 14 are pulled out alive from rubble three days after powerful earthquake smashed Turkish city

  • Idil Sirin, 14, was rescued after 58 hours beneath the rubble early on Monday
  • Her eight-year-old sister, Ipek, did not survive Friday’s quake in the city of Izmir 
  • Elif Perincek, three, was saved seven hours after Idil and two days after her mother, brother and two sisters were rescued. One of her siblings later died
  • Death toll from 6.6-magnitude quake reached 85 today as searches continued 

Two girls aged three and 14 have been pulled out alive from the rubble three days after a powerful earthquake decimated the Turkish city of Izmir.  

The overall death toll from Friday’s quake reached 85 after teams found more bodies overnight amid toppled buildings in the country’s third-largest city. 

Rescue workers clapped as 14-year-old Idil Sirin was removed from the rubble, after being trapped for 58 hours. Her eight-year-old sister, Ipek, did not survive, NTV television reported.

Seven hours later, rescuers saved three-year-old Elif Perincek, whose mother, brother and two sisters had been rescued two days earlier. One of Elif’s siblings later died.

Three-year-old Elif Perincek clutches the thumb of a rescuer after she was saved after 65 hours trapped in the rubble of an apartment building in the Turkish city of Izmir

The little girl is carried to safety on a stretcher after she was rescued from the rubble early on Monday

Three-year-old Elif holds a rescuers hand after she was saved from the rubble – she became the 106th person to be rescued alive

Rescue workers carry 14-year-old Idil Sirin after she was extracted from a collapsed building early on Monday in the disaster-struck city of Izmir, Turkey

Crowds surrounded rescue workers after they freed 14-year-old Idil Sirin after 58 hours trapped in the rubble of a collapsed building in Izmir

Three-year-old girl, Elif Perincek, is pulled from the debris after 65 hours under the rubble following a magnitude 6.6 quake shook Turkey’s Aegean Sea coast, in Izmir

Idil Sirin, 14, who was under the rubble for 58 hours, is carried away after she was rescued from the collapsed Emrah building, Izmir

The child spent 65 hours in the wreckage of her apartment and became the 106th person to be rescued alive, the state-run Anadolu Agency reported. 

‘A thousand thanks to you, my God. We have brought out our little one Elif from the apartment block,’ Mehmet Gulluoglu, head of Turkey’s Disaster and Emergency Management Authority (AFAD), wrote on Twitter.

Onlookers applauded as ambulances carrying the girls rushed to hospitals immediately after their rescue.

Close to a thousand people were injured in the quake, which was centred in the Aegean Sea, north-east of the Greek island of Samos. It killed two teenagers on Samos and injured at least 19 other people on the island. 

There was some debate over the magnitude of the earthquake. The US Geological Survey rated it 7.0, while Istanbul’s Kandilli Institute put it at 6.9 and Turkey’s emergency management agency said it measured 6.6.

The quake triggered a small tsunami that hit Samos and the Seferihisar district of Izmir, drowning one elderly woman.

The tremors were felt across western Turkey, including in Istanbul as well as in the Greek capital of Athens. Hundreds of aftershocks followed.

Members of rescue services search in the debris of a collapsed building for survivors in Izmir, Turkey

Members of rescue services work on the debris of a collapsed building in Izmir, Turkey, Sunday

A member of rescue services with a dog, walks past a destroyed building in Izmir, Turkey

Turkey has a mix of older buildings and cheap or illegal construction, which can lead to serious damage and deaths when earthquakes hit.

Regulations have been tightened in light of earthquakes to strengthen or demolish buildings and urban renewal is under way in Turkish cities, but it is not happening fast enough. 

More than 3,500 tents and 13,000 beds have been supplied to provide temporary shelter, according to AFAD, which said 962 people had been injured in Friday’s earthquake.

Rescue teams continue ploughing through concrete blocs and debris of collapsed buildings in Turkey’s third largest city in search of survivors of a powerful earthquake

A man sleeps outdoors on Sunday after an eathquake destroyed homes in Izmir, Turkey

More than 3,500 tents and 13,000 beds have been supplied to provide temporary shelter, according to AFAD, which said 962 people had been injured in Friday’s earthquake 

More than 740 victims have so far been discharged from hospitals, AFAD said.

It was the deadliest earthquake in Turkey since one in the eastern city of Van in 2011 which killed more than 500 people. A quake in January this year killed 41 people in the eastern province of Elazig.

Turkey sits on top of fault lines and is prone to earthquakes. In 1999, two powerful quakes killed some 18,000 people in north-western Turkey. Earthquakes are frequent in Greece as well.

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Woman's disabled children lived with her rotting body for TWO YEARS after she died and hid corpse under pile of clothes

POLICE are investigating the death of a Nashville mom after her disabled children were found inside an apartment with her rotting corpse hidden beneath a pile of clothes.

A Davidson County deputy made the grim discovery on October 21 while serving an eviction notice at 56-year-old Laronda Jolly's home in Tennessee.

Jolly's four intellectually disabled adult children continued living in the apartment after she died as her body was in bed, authorities told WKRN.

One of Jolly's children told investigators they believe she died about two years before police found her rotten corpse, according to Crime Online.

But her brother, Anthony Jolly, revealed to WKRN that he believes his sister died earlier than 2018.

"There was nothing left but bones, it was just a skeleton," he said.

"I called my niece, and I asked her how long had my sister been deceased and when she said since early 2017 – I was shocked."

Anthony and Laronda weren't the closest, but he said he occasionally called her to check in on her.

He claimed that over the past few years his nieces and nephews often said their mother wasn't home.

This prompted Anthony to call Metro police officers to conduct a wellness check on Laronda.

He said he found out on Wednesday that his nieces and nephews were being evicted from their home, and that his sister was dead.

Officers weren't able to get in contact with Laronda back in August because she was hidden in the apartment, Anthony said.

“She was on a bed, they piled clothes on top of her body and they stayed in the apartment with their decaying mother,” he said.

“They knew better, but they were going by what their mother said, they were obeying their mother’s wishes – just let her lay there, no matter what. Don’t call anybody, and that’s what they done.”

WKRN obtained audio of the fateful 911 call, in which the deputy told a dispatcher that Jolly's body was found "covered up in bed" beneath "clothes and stuff" piled on top of her.

The deputy can be heard asking Jolly's children how long their mother had been deceased, to which they admitted they didn't know.

“Evidently she’s been dead a long time up there. They’ve just got clothes and stuff piled up on top of her,” the deputy told the dispatcher.

“Somebody piled clothes on top of her?” the dispatcher replied.

“Yeah, they say she’s been deceased for some years up here in this bed,” said the deputy.

Authorities said they don't suspect foul play in the mother of four's death, but they're investigating to determine whether any criminal activity had taken place.

Laronda Jolly had a history of seizures, police said, which came as a surprise to her brother.

“If she had a health condition, I didn’t know about it,” Anthony said.

A local ministry group is helping Laronda's four adult children with housing and basic needs.

No charges have been announced and additional details are pending the results of a medical examiner's autopsy.

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Who are Sophie Ellis-Bextor’s children and what are their names? – The Sun

SOPHIE Ellis-Bextor has five children with husband Richard Jones.

Here's everything you need to know about her children including when her youngest was born…

When was Sophie Ellis-Bextor's youngest born?

Sophie Ellis Bextor, 41, gave birth to her fifth child, a son named Mickey, on January 7, 2019.

She shared a pic of on Instagram of the new arrival with the caption: "He’s here! Mickey Jones born today weighing 7lb 1oz and he’s absolutely gorgeous.

"Welcome to our quirky little family, sweet boy.

"We’re so glad you’re here safe. Xxxxxxxxxxxx."

How many children does Sophie Ellis-Bextor have?

Sophie Ellis Bextor now has five children, including one-year-old Mickey, with husband Richard Jones.

The others are Sonny, 16, Kit, 11, Ray, eight, and Jesse, five.

The couple married in 2005 and their first child Sonny was born just eight months after they met.

After the birth of Jesse in 2015 Sophie told HELLO magazine "After I had my first and second child, I was often asked, 'Are you having another?'

"Now, after four, it’s very telling that I’m getting 'Are you stopping now?'"

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